5 simple steps for you to stop worrying

The size of your life is directly a proposal to the size of the problems you can handle.

So the key to a great life is how to handle the problems in your life.

It is human nature to overthink. We always think if we are taking the right decision in our life and we overthink it. Eventually it leads to stress and anxiety making us frustrated, distracted.

If you call your dad and he didn't pick? What happened? Why is not he picking? he always picks at the 1st ring itself. Is he safe?

It happens to me and my brother all the time and we crosscheck with each other.

I always worry after leaving home if I locked the house properly? If the stove in the kitchen was on, If the geyser in the bathroom is off?

Worry has a way of bringing our mind straight to the possible negative outcomes and keeping us stuck there.

So tell me What is that thing you worry about  and how do you silence the constant "What ifs?"

The truth of the matter is God is taking care of everything my friends.

There are so many problems throughout our life related to marriage, relationships, jobs, and children. God is always there in control to shape them in to correct form.

In our yoga class, they  say one thing in between which I always apply to myself when I am stressed i.e"Just Observe your  thoughts which come to your mind, don't judge them"

I always listen to Dr. Syam Bhat in the cure fit app meditation series(mind.fit). When I listen to the range of mediation in mind. fit app after a very long tiring day in the office it relaxes, soothes, calms my anxious mind.

In his book "How to stop worrying and start living" Author Dale Carnegie has offered practical strategies for breaking out this destructive habit. Check it out here.

When I began mastering my mind and took control of my emotions and learned how to stop worrying, I started enjoying life in everything which I do which ultimately made me feel happy and peaceful.

So I have put together this powerful guide to stop worrying in 5 steps, supporting you to practice let go, let be, and let live!


1. Live in the present. Just leave the thoughts of the past and future. Every single day focus on your goal and try to achieve that. We already have so many precious things in our life like health, family, money, time. Instead of being thankful for these priceless things we will be thinking about how to own the materialistic things.

2. At any given point of time you should differentiate what you can control and what you cannot control? Focus on the things which you can control and let go of what we can not control. For example when my daughter was young I decided to take a break from my career for a few years. Instead of constantly thinking about what my friends are doing in there career(which was not in my control), I just focused on my family and my daughter and created lots of beautiful memories for now.

3.When you are worried 1.identify your problem.2.write what can you, 3.what exactly you will do4. when u will do put in your calendar, 5.take action. With this 5 step process, you can concur 90 percent of your problems.

4. What's the worst that could happen? If you take the above example which I gave. As a first-time parent  I was overwhelmed with responsibility and guilt because my kid was young. I was juggling between office and personal life and then my husband got an opportunity to go to Canada for work. I decided to quit my job for some time and spend time with my family instead of thinking about my job and career and worrying. I  utilized that time to learn parenting skills, a healthy lifestyle(cooking, self-care, relaxation, and learned some new technologies). So that is the power of accepting the worst-case scenario and once you accept there is nothing more to lose and then you will work on how to improve on those worst-case scenarios.

5. Get busy. When you lose yourself in work and you have no time to worry about anything else.
You will work so hard that you will be exhausted by the end of the day.
There is a really powerful and touching story from Dale Carnegie's book.
There was a man named Michael. Michael has lost his 5 years old daughter and then 10 months later he lost his newly born baby. He could not take it anymore and he was not able to sleep at night. He went to the doctor. Doctors were helpless and they gave him sleeping pills to calm down his mind, but they were running out of options. But there was one thing Michel still had was his 4 years old son. One day his son insisted him to help him build a toy board. Michael was still down and was not helping his Son. But his Son kept insisting and finally, Michel gave up and worked with his Son reluctantly. He worked with his Son for 3 hours and those 3 hours were the most peaceful hours he had in a long time. That is when he realized that being busy is the cure for his worry. Then the next day he went around the house and listed 242 things which he could do for the next few months.
So it is not practically possible to focus on two things at a time. If you focus on work and keep yourself busy there will be no time to worry.

So don't worry, plan and take action, get busy and prepare for what you have control over.
Eat well, Sleep well. Finally if all 'if-else'  fails, eat dark chocolate. Studies show that chocolate helps to reduce anxiety. A number of foods are there in the list but Chocolate is my favorite 🙂

I would love to hear any other strategies you have found which help with stop worrying and managing anxiety. Let me know in the comment section below!


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